Posts by Coffee House Girl

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new here

by unstopableravens in

hi i am new to this forum.

unstopableravens.

Coffee House Girl

HI, nice to have you...why dont you stay awhile!

CHG

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do you miss anything from when you were a jw?

by Newborn in

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a few of my friends who also used to be jw's, say they miss certain things abt it...i can honestly say that i don't miss a single thing (my sister obviously who's still in but nothing else).. before i could sometimes miss having such a strong belief but that's also gone.

i guess i've moved on big time.

/newborn.

Coffee House Girl

watersprout & mag witch- I MISS THE CLOTHES TOO- I love getting dressed up, and now I wear some of my favorite meeting clothes that I pair up with mini's instead of below the knee skirts(thankfully mini's are in style this fall/winter) and I miss high heels- I love my beauties so...sometimes I take them out of the closet and look at them- I don't have an excuse anymore to go out and buy new fancy outfits like I did. I would always look forward to the conventions and assemblies- not for the programs- but to look at what everyone was wearing & see who was wearing the highest heels. -so silly......

Yes I should put in a token coment about family, yes sometimes I miss my sister & cousins, aunts & uncles, but not as much as I thought I would.....

CHG

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And now, a Rap by sd-7..."I Watch the Watchtower Fall"

by sd-7 in

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as i watch the watchtower fall.

nothing left to govern my body.

i fall into the winter.

Coffee House Girl

I love it & I think you must collaborate with stuckinamovement on a youtube video- I was imagining emineim's voice in the lyrics when I was reading

have you thought about quitting your day job?

CHG

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ive been to hospital and had a biopsy taken from a lump in my breast today

by looloo in

i was expecting to just get examined then told it was nothing to worry about but i also had a mamogram , then scan .

the lump i was worried about was ok but the scanner found one behind it that she was not sure about , she took a biopsy from it after i had a local anesthetic and sent me back to the doctor who told me i would now have to wait a week for those results !

when i had arrived i was told i would be told today if everything is ok !

Coffee House Girl

Best wishes & I hope for some peace for you for this week while you are waiting for results- My boss' wife did have breast cancer & after chemo and radiation- she was in remission...now after 5 years she was declared cancer free from the doc- it is possible :)

best of luck & yes I will have CSG check for lumps (seriously)

CHG

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introduction

by pontoon in

lozasleft said i should introduce myself.

i wasn't happy my dad got baptized because i thought it would change him and i liked him the way he was.

anyway i got baptized in 1969 at 16 yrs old mainly because i wanted to be able to date jw girls.

Coffee House Girl

Welcome pontoon! There are many people in your shoes now- I feel your pain (about the parents thing) and hope reading about what other people have gone through will help you- you are heard and understood here.

Thanks for sharing

CHG

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Update: part 2, elder's counsel to mom to quit "bad association"

by Coffee House Girl in

well because i knew the questions would be the same on saturday as they were friday i was even more prepared.

my mom has this pattern of repeating the same questions over and over again...she will leave it for a few hours & then she will cycle them over again, but then ask more detail.. so saturday she calls me before i leave for home and now she is backpedalling her story.

she tells me that the elder's never said that they were going to disfellowship me, they just were counseling her that she should no longer be associating with me because i am bad association and have been seen with "him" (again with the him) and that his car has been seen parked there all the time.

Coffee House Girl

Thanks cantleave & nugget for yours as well! I could send one of our fun cards to my "stalking" elder, that would solve it for him wouldn't it? Nah...

CHG

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Update: part 2, elder's counsel to mom to quit "bad association"

by Coffee House Girl in

well because i knew the questions would be the same on saturday as they were friday i was even more prepared.

my mom has this pattern of repeating the same questions over and over again...she will leave it for a few hours & then she will cycle them over again, but then ask more detail.. so saturday she calls me before i leave for home and now she is backpedalling her story.

she tells me that the elder's never said that they were going to disfellowship me, they just were counseling her that she should no longer be associating with me because i am bad association and have been seen with "him" (again with the him) and that his car has been seen parked there all the time.

Coffee House Girl

Outlaw- as always you say it succinctly and with flair :)

I wrote to the elders requesting to only be contacted by mail & put in a bit about how perhaps my mother being elderly and having a hard time taking care of my dad would have better benefitted from encouragement rather than counsel. Those words fell on deaf ears I'm sure.

CHG

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Update:Elders still using passive/agressive & Confrontation with JW mom

by Coffee House Girl in

well, i am glad my brother called and forwarned me this was comming...i got to come on here and get so much good advise from you people.

it actually started friday nite....my door bell was buzzing at 7pm, this time they parked their car so that they thought i couldn't see it but i climbed up my kitchen counter and could see the rear end of the car by peeking out that window.

it was the same elder as before.. an hour after that: must be mom couldn't stand it anymore & she called me crying.

Coffee House Girl

tellthetruth- you are right, if i spilled my guts, it would all be over for the moment...then I would be a good little JW again, yielding to men. My actions have a specific purpose, will I be judged by others? Yes, but can I live with myself? Absolutely, sleeping soundly. I understand your point of view though. Welcome!

darkuncle- yes I am a one woman balancing act- hope I can keep juggling :) thanks for your comment.

illuminator- awww fresh out of eggs... will have to restock

nugget- yes, I am angling for a legal recourse & I have sent them a letter requesting only to be contacted by mail, as I am stumbled by harrassment of mom and landlady.

3mozzies- (I hope mozzie means your a morrissey fan, because I am too) Thanks, I think I will end up loosing her in the end, but I want to break the news about CSG my way- not their way

CHG

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Update: part 2, elder's counsel to mom to quit "bad association"

by Coffee House Girl in

well because i knew the questions would be the same on saturday as they were friday i was even more prepared.

my mom has this pattern of repeating the same questions over and over again...she will leave it for a few hours & then she will cycle them over again, but then ask more detail.. so saturday she calls me before i leave for home and now she is backpedalling her story.

she tells me that the elder's never said that they were going to disfellowship me, they just were counseling her that she should no longer be associating with me because i am bad association and have been seen with "him" (again with the him) and that his car has been seen parked there all the time.

Coffee House Girl

Thank you all for your kind replies,

Many of you wonder how they may know what CSG's car is...yes I live on a busy street, it is easy for anyone to pass by on a daily basis to go to and from work (like a suspicious elder). But that is still not proof because there are at least three cars parked here all different times of the day, and CSG knows my landlady and does computer work in her appartment- which door is adjacent to mine, you really have no way of knowing which apartment one could be entering. Plus I have an ace in the hole that I will provide upon a JC meeting that I wont share on line until after it is over.

Clearpoison- your issue is exactly what I have been wrestling with when deciding to go this route. Do I just lie down and take it from the elders as I have always done and lose my mom, or do I fight bogus rules from a bogus organization even using less than "admirable" tactics to beat them at their game? I may still loose my mom anyway...eventually she still may choose to cut me out, but they violated human decency by upsetting her & making her feel unworthy by twisting their "laws" to try to gain control over me and her. I want to beat them for me. That is selfish, but that is truth. Mom ultimately has to make her own choice.

Thank you again for all your love and support

CHG

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Update:Elders still using passive/agressive & Confrontation with JW mom

by Coffee House Girl in

well, i am glad my brother called and forwarned me this was comming...i got to come on here and get so much good advise from you people.

it actually started friday nite....my door bell was buzzing at 7pm, this time they parked their car so that they thought i couldn't see it but i climbed up my kitchen counter and could see the rear end of the car by peeking out that window.

it was the same elder as before.. an hour after that: must be mom couldn't stand it anymore & she called me crying.

Coffee House Girl

Thanks Flipper for all your help and support to Coffee Shop Guy and myself!

Broken Promises- my thoughts exactly & they are just fueling my fire to fight for the right to help my mom :)

CHG